Apparently my advice didnt help much. she replied with a note saying that her bf/ex still writes her poems and loves her, and that she didnt know what to do. I remember how young love felt and yet it all seems so petty … how sad it is to grow older … here was my message to her:

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well —, it sounds as if like most guys, he wants to have his cake and eat it too. I am notsure if you know what I mean by that, but let me explain. Guys are selfish beings … all humans are. In some ways, he still wants to be with you, and in others he doesnt. He is simply not man enough to choose one path and stick to it. He may still love you, but some guys can love a girl and still not want to be with her (I am one of those guys). Maybe he wants someone new, but still wants you to love him.<br><Br>There are many reasons why he could still be showing his affection, the most obvious of these being that he still has love for you.<br><br>The problem is that hearts are easily swayed. What you need to do is decide again. This time, you will be deciding whether to fight for him, or whether to gracefully bow out. It is totally your decision and dont let anyone tell you what to do.

Whatevere you do decide however, remember my previous advice. Think about who needs who more, and never settle for someone who doesnt deserve you. That is how women wind up with wife beaters, drunks, and drug dealers.<br><br>Jamie<br>***<br><Br>Im one sick puppy … hehe I know I sound very judgemental, but being someone who has manipulated girls, I think all girls should know that guys manipulate girls … as surely as some girls manipulate guys … nothing is perfect in this world and innocence (or the refusal to see reality) is a knife at your throat.